As we are all different so is our trauma, trauma can be a difficult childhood where our basic needs aren’t met. It can be social exclusion; it can be a very difficult birth. It can be living with years of abuse in a relationship. From working with clients, I have noticed it is often the events after the trauma which make the recovery difficult. Not being heard or believed, not getting validation. This is where counselling can help, it doesn’t have to be re-visiting the event, it can be re-framing what came after. It can be the belief and the validation that this happened. It is allowing the recovery process at the client’s own pace.