Couples and Relationship Therapy

I offer couples and relationship therapy online or in person from my home which is 10 minutes from Ashburton, Devon.

We begin with an assessment where we discuss what brings you to therapy, your conflict styles and the relationship dynamics. We will identify your goals that we will then work towards.

I offer techniques to regulate emotions – independently – without needing the partner to do this for us. I teach communication skills to help a couple hold space for each other and to learn to be less defensive.

Being defensive is a self protective patterned behaviour where we don’t listen deeply to our partner and are instead thinking of the next response.

I like the process to be collaborative and each session begins with a check in which gives space for any current issues to be explored. Couples can benefit from the regular ‘safe space’ to understand each other at a deeper level.

We may also explore other aspects such as previous trauma and early life experiences.

To watch a couple learn to pace their communication and find opportunities to express their love for each other is a very rewarding experience.